Dont want to give up but I dont think I have a choice. I am so frustrated. After that we had a long talk about our marriage, we listed the things we liked and didnt like about our marriage, and agreed to change. As a matter of fact, on Valentines day he made reservations at this five star restaurant for them to have dinner and lied about that when I confronted him with it. He wrote just hi to her. So now there`s none of that. Have you yourself ever had a gut feeling and it was wrong? I went in and checked his email. Hes got no respect for the marriage at all. I just want some proof so that I can feel that I have made a decision on facts. A good open point of view helps to evaluate the thoughts and feelings of uncertainty in our own minds as women. This relationship counselor says 92% of men who cheat are sexually satisfied at home. In the end, Im sure it will be my fault for the trust issues. So needless to say I took him back but this time set rules for myself. We basically just had phone conversations mostly through out 1 1/2 years. The wired thing about the time he called he called me 23 minutes early before his lunch break. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but I do know that we can sabotage our marriages by being suspicious and jealous. I dont know what to do. So I asked him again and told him I wanted an direct answer. SO much. Or we plant the idea of cheating in their heads, and they go ahead and cheat because we kept talking about it or accusing them of cheating. Confronting a cheating spouse without doing some prep work often leads to negative outcomesconstant denials, changing stories and confusion . I also found hed subscribed to a number of online cheating websites for married people..dating back to before he proposed to me. I got married 2 yrs ago. He is so much addict of it that I am pretending that all is fine around me . I still dont know if I can trust him though. I was able to hear how far the relationship had gone. You are correct in saying that something is wrong. I dont think its bad if a guy gives you negative comments. Tip #1 Casually Discuss The Topic. Am I just totally stupid? My world was shattered. Now he is back in our lives me and my three children. If your suspicions are not confirmed, breathe and live on together. We havent been able to reconnect emotionally very well in the past 3 years. So how odd is that. Narcissists won't usually admit to cheating on their partner. Sadly, my husband does have a history of lying, but that was because of drug issues in the past. He is a good hearted guy and it may really be friendship but I want it to stop. It crushed me and sent me into a very bad depression not only was my husband cheating but I had also found out 2 weeks prior that a good friend had been murdered. My husband is in Mexico hes been there these past 3yrs now. Only you can answer those questions. Yet, other times he gets angry, cussed at me, tells me I need mental help and that Im crazy for accusing him. Emptying almost all of it within 10 days time. I also saw she hadnt responded to him. I have been with my husband for 4 yrs.. We dated for a year before we got married. The second time I found out (a month later) he was in Iraq. Im a very gorgeous girl, and i feel he is lucky 2 have me but sometimes i feel he is cheating and lying about it. We all do. I had to go and start a therapy as I was losing interest in food and life in general . I confronted him and he called me a bi**h and later appolgized for it. But again I was wrong. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. NARCISSUS I didnt even know what that word meant until I Googled it. Now I am honestly wondering if it was an excuse for him to cheat on me. Maybe that is why he tooked advantage of me. I feel like I have lived the past 15 years in hell with Satan himself!!! Trust me, in your heart, or in that spot 2 inches behind your belly button, you can feel it. please give me some advice. I dont buy the boss part, Im not a moron. ? We have been married for 30 years and going thru hard timds in our marriage, not intimacy I was depressed and not interested so I dont blame this 100% on him, but he still insists they did not have xes and he was there smoking crack. Everytime, we get in an argument about him being so private about his phone. I wanna break this relation but i am thinking about the kid. To this day he still denies having sex with the woman, but a known fact via text messages was that the taxed secretly from his work phone and where planning to meet up on one or her days off of work I had to work really hard but I forgave him and tried to move on but everytime I think about it I feel like Im being lied to again. Im sorry. He seemed much more emotionally in tune with her then with me from what I could tell and he also knew her long before he met me. When he seems to be enjoying himself the most, ask him whether or not he's cheated on you. I dont know if it is my insecurities and the fact that I need to be told how much Im needed regularly, (I have always had doubts and insecurities to these extremes) but I worry that I am just convenant to be with. In each case it was they who made the first approach, after my habitual flirting and compliment paying didnt seem to be going anywhere; I get pleasure from simply being polite and engaging with the ladies just as my father used to. Weve talked about divorce in the past because of other problems but he always says he wants to keep trying although he never takes any actions. Why does a girl writes to you that she is missing you by sending a picture of her drinking and partying. what do you think, could it have happend. just leave him. I was a stay home mom until we agree to get divorce.now I dont know. For many women who have been cheated on, they start to blame the breakdown of their marriage on themselves. I almost told him everything. Youre stronger than you know! You are feeling shock, anger, depression just to name a few. what now if I cannot get the truth? at his work place. It finally evolved to me confront my husband about them being emotionally attached to one another(since that was obvious especially on her end). You sound like me I went and am going through this. It is just like a knife cutting my heart. My boys never knew, which was my one objective. We saw each other once or twice a week (I now live across the state of CT so we cant see each other too much more). Im in tears typing this out because I have so much pain and I have no true compassion from him. We got married back in 2006 and went on our honeymoon. Below are marriage counselor Gary Neumans signs that a husband is having an affair. Hes cheating and lying, and he wont change. He tells me it was the only picture she ever sent. I encourage you to get help. When I talked to him about this I didnt get the sense that he was lying. the wife has told me in the past that her friend get crazy when she drinks a few drinks. It limits me so much. He had introduced her to me about a year previous to this incident and gave me her name and said she was the brother of the person we both know. I caught him several times and so he recently went to a treatment facility. He began coming over to comfort me letting me cry which I thought was out of a sincere care due to all the enormous grief I was suffering thru which I foolishly thought was outta kindness!!! hi there im wondering if im just being paranoid or is he cheating on me again this is the situation ive been with my spouse for 9 years about 5 years ago he cheated on me and told me him self i really love him alot so ive tryed really hard to regain the trust but i find that he is arguing with me over anything and everything and does things to make me feel like he is cheating again he says he learned his lesson the first time and that he never wants to feel that way again but i dont feel like that is the truth he will make comments like im going out to the bar when its something he has never done or he shaves before going to work, or he talk to someone ie a women and tells me about monthes down the road that she came on to him but he said no really what i guess im asking is how do i find out if he is truly cheating again or im just super paranoid because he has already done it before . I need honesty to move forward, and I read that crack is very addictive. Just imagine being with someone that doesnt do all the crap he does and you never have to worry about any of that again. Its been three weekend now hes been going the Saturday and coming back the Sunday. When You Have a Bad Gut Feeling About Your Marriage. Its not like he isnt getting anything, just not enough. I want to stay with him, but am afraid he did sleep with this woman. I keep asking him about everything and all he has to say is: I dont remember, I forgot, I dont know. Narcissists won't usually admit to cheating on their partner. They have been stealing from me. How to Be Your Own Private Investigator https://www.theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/is-he-cheating-how-to-be-a-private-investigator/. All of this happened 2 years ago after we had our baby. But theres been a few times I have had a strong guy feeling he is cheating on me. Finally, after he entered a treatment faicility for alcoholism and sex addition, I have decided to leave the marriage. So I sat in my vehicle for about 10 more minutes and then I called him. Since then hes been super nice and sweet and my house is always clean. etc. Affair Strategies for a "Long Game". I have since uncovered lots of other information which proves him and her are guilty as charged! What is your perfect life? A man who means his apology and won't cheat again will understand that. I hope they help, and welcome your thoughts. When he would come home, i would get the hug and I love you, then he would sleep, watch tv, or read a car magazine. I am sick of the lies and the sad part is he almost had me buying his lies. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-forgive-and-trust-him-after-he-cheated-on-you/. We had a huge reckoning to each other. Who would have thought it would have taken getting divorced to wind up in such a situation? I had bad vibes about her from the beginning she was entirely too friendly in our male dominated workplace. I think that the reason he will not admit the affair is because he would never want me to think less of him and because he never thought there would be a breech in their secrecy. The study, published recently in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, is the first to look at how demographics, interpersonal factors and sexual personality affect infidelity. I never forgot his birthday. We planned both of our children and as recently as yesterday he was talking about trying for a girl. He lives to be complimented. A few times, late night. Hi, Thank you! I checked his laptop and saw that he has reactivated his FB account several times. his freinds are no saints. The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its definitely true. Perhaps you feel you nagged him too much, or you didnt get dressed up to impress him as much because you were busy with the children. I come from affluent well to do family were things were more about vanity and luxury. I regret to inform you that you speak the truth. Laurie, youre quite sharp. How can i trust or get him to admit. I had enough self esteem to just end it right then. His family dynamics were very different. been married for 7years, 1year ago i find out that my husband been cheated on me coz i found out picture of the girl of his bedroom and vedio of the girl taking shower to his own bathroom that time i was 9 months pregnant to my 2ndchild and i was on my own country and he was on overseas work, and he tell it wasnt his girl it was his friend i dont believe because he got all the pictures and video to his hardisc he just keep telling me that he did not cheat on me before that why i was thinking that he cheated on me because he change a lot, he became more angry, he tried to avoid an conversetion to me.. and saying we need to save money bla bla bla.. but he never been like that before.but i want to save my mirrage but i dont know coz sexually we never been making love for 1 and 1/2 year now.. i just dont know what to do, one more he spent more time in the computer than to us, My husband of 4 years said to me yesterday out of the blue that im boring in bed im like an old woman and that i pushed him to other women then quickly changed his answer to your gonna push me toi asked him how can we be intimate if i go to bed EVERY night alone. There is too much detail to go into on that. can anyone tell me whats the meaning of all these? I asked him about it many times. No dinner Nothing. I found these sites and theyll get you started. Today he tells me he cant stand to be with me, and it hurts more to hear that now that hes sober. I assumed they were gifts for me for Valentines Day. We've been together 26 years and I don't want my marriage to end. Youre at the end of your rope, it doesnt seem like he does anything for you or your marriageI dont know what I can do to help you. Not surprisingly, 77% of husbands who cheated had best friends who also cheated on their wives. Betrayal is such a painful and difficult experience that extends far beyond the physical act. Hes very insightful and honest with me. I come from a difference race. When asked he told that those were for some game they were going to play for party. I feel he lied about everything. Just as I am writing i am thinking of dropping the relationship coz I have a feeling I might not win this though i love him so much. But he divide to have drink with this girl all night long then he said he and her did nothing except drinking and talking. I will admit, I actually can be a little paranoid and jealous since that first time, so I dont want to jump the gun. i totally lost it then. I tend to strategically check texts and have found out a lot of painful truth just 2 days ago. And I mean everything a person needs. When I confront him about anything, he always has an excuse. My gut instinct tells me that if you have been suspecting your husband of cheating for the past 13 years, then he may very well be cheating. my questions are, is he cheating or not? I think they have a better handle on whats going on than I ever could (because they know you!). You deserve better than settling for less. ive tried talking to one of his exes but he got super mad and blocked her from anything and everything but he still talks to her. I love him, but I feel so betrayed. At first he said he asked for my forgiveness and since Iam very blessed, I said I can not just forgive out of the blue. If he is really intent on behaving as though nothing happened, try suggest going on a date, just as a way of starting again if for no other reason. These are answers to questions you dont know because from day one of marriage, youve been doubting his integrity. I never confronted him on it. He opens the car door for me and asks me to wait in the car while he comes around to my side to open it. I went through his phone and found a telephone number over and over again. And, why even ten years later does it become so important to know if he had sex? If you have further questions, feel free to ask! I have been married for 3 years. Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. If he/she cheated with you, THEY will cheat on YOU!!! In her book, she describes how to protect a marriage from lies and cheating. Blah blah blah. Such BS. However, you may wish to attend a therapist yourself to work through your feelings and what went wrong in your marriage. Romance her like you would in the beginning, most men act like once they have the woman the work or effort is over. no. With another mans wife. I know this sounds bad. Please help! Acomplicating factor about affairs is the difference between physical and emotional cheating. Hello, I have been married for 11 years now. It is a cautionary tale, dont get upset, or insecure over these things. Some wives have discovered their husbands were cheating after their husband passed away, which is why I wrote How to Forgive Your Husband for Cheating While He Was Alive. Now hes talking in his sleep about having sex with another person.. It seems he just cares about her and not about the mess he created in our family. Thank you so very much. hi : you said you have been together for 12 yrs girlfrnd and boyfriend, 12 yrs is too long, did he propose to get married to you? he also gets upset if i wont let him go hang out with her by himself. I told him again dont lend out your phone it needs to stop . After accidentally catching my husband cheating on me 4 years ago he finally admitted all of the suspicions I had and it turns out he cheated on me twice. Even on the days you feel weak and scared youre still growing and flourishing. Well being pissed i took those pictures printed out , mailed to her husband, her neighbors all on fire department who helped lie for him. I had to go to therapy and prayed alottttt. I too have been in this marriage for almost 20 years now. They were constantly in touch throughout the 7 years I have been married. We were friends for nearly 10 years before ever going on a date. hi, This is rani my issue is that my husband seems like cheating me due to various reason.because i found some changes in him like coming late to home, avoiding me coming to his office , deleting his phone history but after asking abt tat he was managing to keep few entries .showing difference in bed,bluffing , and suddenly showing huge affection towards me somtimes mentioning three instead of two. Look for a second cell phone or SIM card. My gut keeps saying my husband is unfaithful, but Im just not sure. He was being very weird about it. He has onces mentioned divorce but i guess i was putting a big pressure on him! My aunt had a suspicion and sure enough the guy she hired presented evidence within a matter of days on the job. I also found a journal entry that he wrote after I confronted the cheating and he said in the journal entry he feels less of a man because he vowed to me that he would never do the things all of the other men have done to me ( exs ) and he just kept writing that he feels so much less of a man and I honestly hated reading that because I dont want the man that I love feeling that way but then again I want him to feel the pain im in. My husband knows this girl have feeling for him since I was pregnant because this girl decided to tell him she has feeling even tho she knew he has pregnant girlfriend.but I know he is not serious about her too.its just annoying because he say I have boyfriend witch I dont. He was force to tell his wife and the polices his affairs, his one nightstands and what he did to meAfter all this, do I regret telling his wifeNO. Those are questions only you can answer. On his skype I see a girl, who he met at the same time with me. The reason Ive accused him to begin with is because things just dont make sense. I have trusted my husband and the female friend that works with him in his buiness for 10 years. Its his king Baby having a self-pitious tantrum.til he gets his way again. Or you may decide that the relationship is not worth risking your happiness and decide to find someone better. It means youre avoiding problems. Maybe its not the cheating or the lying thats the issue. Woman, you need to pack his stuff up and send him to the left! And this same girl is my neighbor so i wanted to confront her but i thouhgt twice and stopped.He comes home late claiming he did over time.I know he is cheating from the looks on his face but i just dont know what to do.Help Please. My husband password protects his phone (meaing you cant make calls, see texts or emails without a password). This is not out of the ordinary, but this time he didnt call, & he always call b4 going 2 bed or in general, but this time No call! Do you need to know for sure that he might hurt you worse than he already has? We I confronted him once he was very defensive and said he would never cheat on me. Hes been aquising me of things and sneaking around. I dont want to have to keep changing schools for my son right now I rather he be in a stable place. He always denied,Iam really sick and tired his way. Anyway, for the last 3yrs he kept talking and texting the girl that posted pics of them kissing and being together on facebook. Draw on the resources you have, and dont let your husband steal away your spark. If you dont feel supported or loved by your fiance, then youll have a much harder time getting over the cheating. Has had several FB conversations that made my jaw drop, telling one of his old friends (female) I am crazy, hes stuck, hes stuck between a rock and a hard place because of our child, he would prefer a single life right now, I dont love him the same. Cheaters just make me sick. Where Do You Live After a Separation or Breakup? He sent a text so i got to see it. I imagined him pleasuring himself while on the phone with her, uninterrupted in the comfort of his hotel room where he lived for that year. He lied to you about his relationship with the other woman (its not just work! Plus, Janine Driver of the Body Language Institute shares four ways to know if yourhusband is lying about cheating. 2. Me and my husband been together 15 years, Recently I discovered my husband is using his smart phone sending heart shape , love , and kiss emoji to someone ! Often when a husband cheats on us, we can feel bad about our bodies, as if we werent attractive enough for him this should never be the case! Hi, Lets make a deal You listen to what i have to say REAL carefully, and i will help you get your relationship issues together. Amen. Jan, you are correct in a round about way. The wknds he wasnt home. I feel like I cant win here. I do question time to time who he truly is because sometimes I see him as this amazing man and sometimes I see him as this evil person who destroyed a part of me. In his car, buy hidden gps tracker in amazon so you will check his location everytime. Required fields are marked *. Can you be yourself in this relationship? It sounds like hes been thinking about the accusation, and it bothers him. Half of my neighbors have known he was cheating for years. Okay 2010 i was still dealing with the first affair. In my experience, cheaters rarely admit it, even when blatantly caught out. nor any guy because of my past that every boyfriend that i hve ever been with has cheated on me. Men love to look at younger, better bodied women. An Ex-CIA Polygraph Examiner Reveals What Men Dont Want You to Know, Emotional Affairs Vs. Innocent Friendships, Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration, https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/is-he-cheating-how-to-be-a-private-investigator/, https://www.theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/is-he-cheating-how-to-be-a-private-investigator/, https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved, http://www.uoguelph.ca/news/2011/07/sexual_anxiety.html, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZp8u_vGgYo, Practical Examples of Gary Chapman's Love Languages. But I now not sure because I saw his text (he has passcode but luckily it was unlocked) and he was talking about sex position with this girl and say he wanna try next time.as I think they were friend with benefits so before was long time a go or anytime near today? You will find the repeated number with dates and time. I used to think I was in therapy because of how my parents treated me, or because my wife was emotionally abusive, or because she had cheated on me, etc, etc. Well If he hasnt actually cheated yet, he is surely trying to! Even if caught red handed, they'll continue to lie and minimise. And most importantly stop accusing him and telling him everything you know. Warm wishes to you as you recover from the loss of trust that you once had. Lately though up until now he doesnt try to even hardly make a move to sleep with mehe never makes out with me unless we are doing it. I asked him numerous questions about his new secretary His reply, give me a break,shes 28 yrs old. Why would you want to be with a man who does this to other women when hes in a relationship with you? To make a long story short, I know that he is still seeing her. I am very paranoid with him around any female now but I dont want to ruin what we have again. He went to great lengths to make me feel secure. Please understand. Your point is very well taken. It doesnt make sense. I love it. My husband drives a truck. My heart just sank. Also wrapping legs around leg of chair is a sign of restraint, of holding back, and not being honest. after few days i told him why is he doing that to me, beside that he is staying with his son of 8 years how is the boy going to take it when he grow up. May you be wise and clear-headed, and may the curtain of desolation and despair be lifted from you. The email said meet me in the gym at 12.15..you own me a pilates class. If my BFF accused me of having an affair with her husband I would be concerned about what I did to make her feel that way, she was not. What are you doing in this relationship anymore. Take into consideration that the era has taken more of a front seat to cheating lifestyles than ever before. How are is it so sure? 5. Vickie- Its a shame you have to endure thisbut I think you are putting yourself through Hell. We get married and I feel happy. He said ok hell tell her, well,.. i check his phone a week later and theres a txt from him to her saying HIM: just saying hi HER Hey Miss u Now i am mad at this point, i questioned him yet again! At first, when I caught him, he dismissed the . We went to our first appointment and he blamed most of his feelings on me and still denied the affair..with a lot of reading and research I decided to check our phone bill that is when everything came out, I found he had been calling the OW as many as 10 times a day. A spouse, who has been cheated on, needs to feel that all of his or her questions have been answered truthfully. Part 4: Failure to Grieve. And thank God for that because I dont ever want to know what it is like to not know the real meaning of love and not be able to be grateful for the gifts God gave me and to never be happy or satisfied with a person that loves me so much. He didnt leaver her right away. I mean who goes on there honeymoon and leaves his new wife in bed well your down at the bar getting drunk with another woman and going for a walk on the beach. I hope it will help you. If you actually listen, the mystery will be solved. Unfortunately my highly polished manners have no way of turning down a lady, and so it begins with the lady in the driving seat. I asked her if he would be willing to do counseling. We went to couples counseling to try to heal the wounds within our relationship. Please help! I came across your articles on the web. May you know deep in your heart and soul the right thing to do, and may you feel confident in how you choose to bring the matter up. Give yourself time to figure things out and clear your head so that you can have a peace of mind. You cant help your husband get over his sexual addiction. about 6 months of visits I got pregnant with our first child. Now, while if he has taken the choice to cheat this is never your fault, you may wish to both look at your marriage to see if there were things you could both do in order to make you feel closer to each other. Not even two months after we were married i found out he was cheating with me with a girl he previously was with but she had an open marriage. Cheating starts with friendly online flirtations, emails, texts. I didnt know how to deal with my pain at first because his hurtful behavior was something I had never experienced before. ( my babys dad has no ball) andi saw another he dated this woman when we are already together. my name is ashleigh i am married with two children after ready your advice to other woman i should ask as well. For the past 2 weeks i have noticed a change in his behavior towards me. It hurt. He said the woman lives in another city and it was too far and too late for him to take her home. Now our relationship getting worse, I am not happy with him anymore. 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